I’m so curious about the novel you’re working on at the moment. Of course, don’t say a word about it, don’t break the spell. But it must be distracting, to talk about Nonfiction again. Yesterday evening I was having dinner with a dear friend, also a writer, and I was telling her about the way you see your writing ideally: like a stranger on the bus is forcing you to listen to him, can’t afford any boring details, just telling the story. She was laughing, because she realised she always visualises herself in a dark room, behind a table, mumbling along and hoping someone would be interested, and hoping the interested party would eventually find out that the mumbling person is actually a prophet. I read once a Paris Review-interview with James Salter and he said something that I remembered, it’s a bit like your stranger on the bus, he said that he liked to be somewhere with somebody who told him the ‘true story’, the only thing he was interested in, forget all the rest.
Yes, but then, all the effort to make a story look like the true story. In writing you need the ambiguities of daily life. It must be a hell of a job like you wrote in your letter, to explain to people who are thinking of transforming your book into a play or a movie, why your characters are behaving like they do. For me it was one of the great inventions, and still I’m forgetting that I already invented this, have to invent it again and again, that you don’t have to explain anything in your writing, ‘just’ make it convincing. I loved your goblin-story, the pure thrill of realising you can upset someone with an invented story. The first sentence I wrote down in a cahier when I was five was something like : ‘When I came into the room my father and mother were already there, and my brother, they were sitting around the table.’ Sorry, this seems a bit pompous (is this a word?), but I immediately felt also a strange, strong sensation, that through writing down something on paper you distance yourself, like putting a window between you and your intimates. In a way this was the beginning of ‘the secret life of the good girl.’
This is early Friday morning, and guess what, it’s raining. I’m feeling a bit gloomy, I think it has to do with the weight of a new year coming, what will it bring us, I’m scared. I’m thinking of you and your polkadot thing with the fake breast, so stupid they didn’t have your size, I can go to Utrecht any time and buy you something, you must know this, I’d be happy to. Last year two friends gave me a ‘knitted’ bra as a birthday present, something revolutionary without underwire, I’m not sure yet if this is the solution for me, but then again: does it exist, the solution for living your life as a mature woman? (One of my books is actually called Solutions, some people were disappointed that I didn’t give real solutions, I was being a bit ironic – always dangerous.)
I’m so happy to have met you, Julie. Our first conversation was a major highlight of 2023. I feel the urge to keep talking to you, and I will continue with this in 2024, that’s for sure. I will also expand, then, on having grandchildren – this is a delicate subject. I think I’m going to watch Anatomy of a Fall for a second time; it really moved me the way you wrote about this movie in your letter and how the actress reminded you of me. And you sensed quite well that I felt resistance when I saw it. It touched upon so many things I’m struggling with, and maybe my self-loathing has the face of this woman writer in the movie. I don’t know, ingredients for something else, later.
I have to go to the office, cycling in the rain again. One of the best things I bought recently is a so-called ‘change robe’ for surfers in a skateshop, it’s scary yellow and very big, it’s like putting on your private tent. People react to the coat all the time, I take all this as a compliment, just like when I’m running in the cold rainy dark with my training group, and imagining that my trainer – who’s always running beside me, talking – feels attracted to me, instead of facing the reality that I’m slow and he’s trying to keep me going.
Hope you started the new year well, dear Julie. I’m afraid I didn’t ask you any questions, but this is the thing and you know it: I want to know everything about you.
Lots of love,
Marja